Yesterday,
Bella was throwing a typical fit.
She even wrote me a note.
It said,
"Nobody likes me."
Did I teach her to feel this way?
To self depricate?
I worry about it.
I tried to reason with her.
I told her that lots of people love her.
I told her that if she whines and cries,
it makes people uncomfortable,
and they may not want to play with her,
when she acts like that, but they still love her.
She was on the couch pouting.
It was funny,
I had been feeling kind of the same way.
I was doing dishes pouting.
I laughed.
Just as Bella was waiting for someone or something
to make her feel better,
I had been waiting
for my husband to make it better.
I should have written him a note
that said
"Nobody likes me."
It might have been a little less subtle than my pouting.
I thought about what I wanted to hear.
I decided to test it on Bella.
To see if it would make everything better.
So, I said to Bella:
"Alice...um...I mean, Bella, I love you.
You mean the world to me.
I am so proud of you.
You are such a good helper.
Even if nobody else likes you,
I like you a lot.
I love you a lot.
I'm sorry that you are sad."
She was miraculously cured.
People say women are complicated.
Really we aren't.
We just want to be loved.
Like everybody else.
Here are the ever so true lyrics to one of my favorite songs:
For all I've been blessed with in this life
There was an emptiness in me
I was imprisoned by the power of gold
But one honest touch could set me free
Let the world stop turnin'
Let the sun stop burnin'
Let them tell me love's not worth going through
If it all falls apart
I will know deep in my heart
The only dream that mattered had come true
In this life, I was loved by you
For every mountain I have climbed
Every raging river crossed
You were the treasure that I'd longed to find
Without your love I would be lost
Let the world stop turnin'
Let the sun stop burnin'
Let them tell me love's not worth going through
If it all falls apartI will know deep in my heart
The only dream that mattered had come true
In this life, I was loved by you
13 comments:
I am relating to this post... most deinitely. That is all I have ever wanted from anyone.
What I don't want or need is judgement. Understanding and a listening eat is mostly all it takes... I wanna solve my own problems, faults, and shortcomings... just love me for who I am.
ToOdLeS.
the [d] word in the first sentence is definitely not whatever that other word is.
darn my imperfections keep showing.
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another one... crap
listening ear not eat.
I am making so many type-o's lately before hitting the orange button... I must proof read my comments.
This was a great blog Alice. Thanks.
Touched!! Even if it is 1:15 am, the tear was not from being tired.
I sure needed that reminder today. Camping with a 7 year old is not easy, especially one who has learned some annoying behaviors from the previous adults in his life.
He is loved and so am I.
Thanks Alice.
All I need to feel good is to know my wife and my Savior LOVE me. "Charity NEVER faileth!" It is the secret. Ever person who is acting out hurting others is a hurting person needing acknowledgement, attention, or LOVE. Violence, malice, unkind words, oppression, are all adult forms of acting out, pouting, in attempt for love or create a scenario where they can’t get hurt.
Alice......
Even though nobody else may like you.
I like you.
I like you a lot.
I love you as a matter of fact.
The evidence of this is the fact that I find myself describing my family a lot to new people as I meet a lot of people in the singles scene. Inevitably, I come to my sister Alice in Tennesse, and the conversation goes a little something like this....
"Then there is my sister Alice. She and I are the most alike. I'm pretty sure I can talk to her about anything, and I wish she lived closer, cuz she is awesome, and so is her husband."
So Alice, know that you are loved, and then go pass it on to your husband, cuz he is probably feeling the same way too. Men are actually worse than women in this area.
I loved your post and your brother's comments were so sweet too. You are great Alice.
isn't that the truth?! thanks for simplifying it.
I love that song ( who doesnt love Colin Raye) and I love this post. I think all of us need a little reassurance that we are liked and loved.
I love your brotherrs post too, that is true brotherly love!
yes, and it is sung best by IZ!! I forgot I took the music off my blog! I love it, and you are right we aren't complicated we just want to feel loved and validated. I think even the male species even wants this.
Beautiful post! You are an A+ mom, Alice! Glad she felt better.
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