Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Bella The Beautiful
Isn't she just gorgeous? I always feel so badly for people who have children that just aren't that cute. I know that sounds so superficial, but really, there are some kids out there that I hope and pray will grow into themselves.
I often wonder if people know whether or not their kids are "attractiveness challenged". I think that all parents must feel that their kids are as beautiful mine, but I am here to be the one bold enough to speak the truth: they're not. Wow, that makes me sound like a horrible and shallow person. I truly do love all children, but mine are all just beautiful. I can't help but brag.
So, here is a little story from tonight. Nothing too exciting, but kind of funny. Bella somehow managed to take a good chunk out of Sophia's leg with a #2 pencil. Phia was wailing in pain and Bella just kind of disappeared. Sometimes our girls have issues working through their emotions. (they get it from their dad - the working through part - they get their emotions from their mom) So, although we have blessed them with very good looks, we have simultaneously blessed them with other challenges. They have to stay humble somehow
I went back and tried talking to Bella. She doesn't want to talk and starts crying into her pillow. I pull her up and hold her so that she has to look at me. I say, "Bella, let's talk about this, I don't want you to be sad. Why are you crying? Do you not want to apologize to Sophia? Sophia is crying because you hurt her. You need to go and apologize, even if it was an accident."
Bella cries harder. I suddenly got the horrible thought. "Maybe she did this on purpose and now she is overreacting because she feels bad." I say, "Bella, even if you did it on purpose, it's o.k., you just need to go apologize." Bella starts crying harder. I then feel like my assumption was correct. I ask, "Bella, did you do it on purpose? Bella, why are you crying?"
Bella then hollers, "I'm crying because I don't appreciate it that you think I hurt Sophia on purpose."
So, maybe I was wrong. Maybe my children aren't so bad at working out their emotions. Maybe my children are not challenged in any way after all. Maybe they are just beautiful, and somewhat emotionally stable, and eloquent communicators too. I guess they will have only one weakness to work on. My brother used to have this poster hanging in his room. Maybe my kids can adopt it for their new mottto: "It wouldn't be so hard to humble, if I wasn't so darn perfect."